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Me_12
I am expecting number 3 & 4. Currently have a 4 year old and 1 year old.
I am wondering about preparing some sort of letter for potential visitors that could be sent with the baby announcement. Has anybody done this before or does anybody have ideas of what you would say?
Example of what I mean;
*insert baby photo*, babies were born yesterday everybody is healthy and doing well.
We are so excited to introduce babies to you all and we know that you are excited to meet them too! At this time we ask for privacy for our family as we get to know our new members and adjust to being a family of 6. Thank you!
or maybe something to visitors stating that they will be asked to limit visits to 30 minutes. stay away with germs/wash hands, and nobody will be holding babies. (I am not usually too strict about people holding babies, but my twins are likely to come early, so I want to consider extra measures to keep them safe). ❤️
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mavovasa
If I’m being honest I’d just share that info once you know a visitor is coming and leave out of a birth announcement.
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al239108
You know your people best. I would never feel the need for announce that I need privacy as no one would ever just come over unannounced/uninvited. Also, no one overstays their welcome. I let them know as we were setting up if there would be a potential issue of how long we are wanting visitors. As people came over I also just directed them to wash their hands. As a previous poster mentioned, I probably wouldn’t do it in an announcement (also likely to be forgotten or looked up) and just tell them as they come.
But as I mentioned, every dynamic is different, and if you feel the need that you have to set boundaries at that time, then go for it!
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kdjones
We actually sort of did a rule thing before baby was born during our last pregnancy. Let me see if I can find it. It was well taken by most, especially because she was born in October which was the start of cold season in the schools.
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kdjones
@BlueCloud1,
thankfully most of our family was very respectful. But oh my god, strangers �� they did not care. The lady was trying to cover our daughter up with a burp cloth, and my husband snatched it out of her hand and pretty much told her to go away. She was 5 days old and we were grabbing a handful of groceries so we actually had food for a couple days. It was so annoying. It’s usually old women who have zero boundaries when it comes to babies. I get they’ve had kids, but this is MY kid. Not theirs. My husband was livid when it happened.
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brittm1212
There are cute little signs you can buy on Etsy to put at your front door about washing hands/no kissing. My in laws gave me a hard time about “my rules” so the sign would’ve helped me
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Me_12
@brittm1212,
oh, I love the "it's just allergies". Dude it's dead of winter here, you allergic to snow?
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Bubs55
I wouldn’t do anything like this id just wait until someone wants to visit.
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GingerChemist22
I personally think including the rules detracts from a birth announcement, even if it’s just said nicely. So I’d do a separate message asking people who are coming to stay away with germs until they are symptom free. “Since our twins were born early/are immunocompromised we do ask that if you have any illness or symptoms that you wait to meet them until you are symptom free.” I would probably also just send that when someone asks about visiting though instead of a generic message. All of the other rules I think you can enforce while they are there. Then you can adjust the tone too. :)
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soontobemamatothree
with my second, I sent out rules/expectations before she was born. I was walked all over and disrespected with my first so I set strict guidelines and expectations for everyone. I sent it out to those who disrespected me the first time and got a lot of harsh treatment. But honestly it was so much better for my mental health and healing that way
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Jaecat15
We just told our parents/etc no kissing baby, no visitors till we’re ready and wash hands. They never over stayed their welcome but my mom was the only one who had an issue with my rules.
I say just send a post out on facebook or send a text if you need to. Whatever works best for you guys :)
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cm0000
Agree with others on not sending with the announcement. If people ask to visit, you can set very clear guidelines at that time.
As simple and direct as "we'd love to have you stop by for a 45 minute visit before their nap. Are you available from 930-1015?" Does wonders with setting the boundary. 4 days PP my brother in law and his GF came to town to visit...they were so excited to be there, but stayed ALL DAY. I was so so overwhelmed by the end of it and just wanted people out of my house. I'll use the above approach with #2 ( very clear timeline for visits).
My doula also recommended at the very beginning, if you have visitors or plans one day, don't make any plans or commitments the next. This really helped me not get overwhelmed by all of it and allowed us to rest up...having people in your space can take a lot out of you!
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